Saturday, June 9, 2012

Am I A Failure?



Back then, I would define my life simply as " Success - Failure"
It's as if it was either a "Yes" or a "No"
But what  is "Success" anyway?
or even the term "Failure" ?
It simply does not describe your WHOLE LIFE!
rather, it simply means you are  perfectly human,
with capacity to succeed in some aspects,
and capacity to fail in some others.

I've loved, I've laughed and cried.
I've had my fill; my share of losing.
And now, as tears subside,
I find it all so amusing.

To think I did all that;

And may I say - not in a shy way,
"No, oh no not me,
I did it my way".


- Frank Sinatra's My Way

Yes, I am responsible for what I am now,
the sum total of all the decisions I made before.
No one to blame.

I am glad that early in my life I come across an inspiring quote :

At age 20, we worry about what others think of us;
At 40, we don't care what they think of us;
At 60, we discover they haven't been thinking about us at all!
- Jock Falkson

I think life would not be so stressful if one realizes that we live our
own lives according to the dictates of our psyche and not to live it
the way others want us to be.

I do my thing and you do your thing.
I am not in this world to live up to your expectations,
And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I,
and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful.
If not, it can't be helped.

(Fritz Perls, "Gestalt Therapy Verbatim", 1969)

Guess this explains why I am happy and contended,
and you are not!